Let’s say it has been a while since you have had sexual pleasure from intercourse.  Pain and or discomfort may have been stopping you. Perhaps you were not in a relationship for a while and have now found a new love.  Whatever the reason, you have decided you want to start enjoying penetrative intercourse again and your health care provider has recommended vaginal dilators to help you get your “mojo” back.   

So now you may be wondering, what is a vaginal dilator and how can it help me? Vaginal dilators, also known as vaginal trainers, are progressively sized therapeutic devices that are designed to help women suffering from painful intercourse, vaginismus, vulvodynia, and the effects of cancer treatment and surgery. The most comfortable vaginal dilators are made of silicone and resemble body tissue.  They are phallic shaped but not anatomically correct, with more  of a cylindrical shape, and  tapered at the end to ease with insertion. They also have a flange handle.

Many women have been wondering whether a vaginal dilator can also be used for pleasure.  This is really a personal choice. Although dilators were not originally designed for sexual pleasure there is no reason they cannot be used for this purpose.  Some women may find that, by using their dilators, they are gaining self-confidence are learning more about their body, which can impact and heighten the sexual experience. 

There are several ways for a woman to an achieve orgasm. Some women can orgasm with vaginal stimulation, which may include stimulating the “G” spot. However studies have shown that a larger percentage of women need direct clitoral stimulation.  Clitoral stimulation can be achieved through direct stimulation including oral sex, and/or the use of vibrators or toys.  A vaginal dilator can also be used to achieve sexual pleasure by directly stimulating the clitoris. I recommend using a generous amount of a high-quality lubricant on your dilator as well as on your vulva. 

Vibrators are also a helpful tool for sexual pleasure and orgasm. They come in many different shapes, sizes and battery type. Most have different intensity levels and some can be used for clitoral and internal stimulation as the same time.  There are even vibrators that have been designed to stimulate both the male and female sex organs.  

In conclusion, vaginal dilators were primarily designed for therapeutic purposes, but can also be used for pleasure. Dilators will help you get your vagina ready for penetrative sex and can be used to stimulate the clitoris. Always listen to your body, it knows best!